I'm really enjoying seeing all the things you are gleaning from what I have said because great mounds of what I intend is showing up. And are things I've put down in my notes. What I'm still not getting is that if you all are getting what I'm getting (Brain) why isn't the encoding adequate?
@actingpower and @mclucas It's really not about her memories...she could lose all her memories in some sort of Amnesia accident and she'd still want a better (than none - because it's all been wiped away) relationship with her mom.
This is the plan. The IC focus is on openness, she has to open up to the idea that there might be another way to look at the stuff mom did to her to make her miserable.
Option B. is where I was headed. She doesn't and really wouldn't consider option A: and just walking up to mom's grave site and saying "Gee, Mom, I know you were a queen bitch when you were alive, but now that you're dead and buried, I've decided our past doesn't matter and I'll come and chat you up twice a month like we were best buds." So the option of straight up forgiveness isn't on the table.
But what I still don't understand is WHAT is missing from my encoding of the Concern? What's not there that should be? Examples would be super helpful, cuz trying to get me to figure out what's missing doesn't seem to be working.