So I’m going to use this as a general tread, I think, for sharing observations of Dramatica out in the world.
One day in conversation with my wife, I was told that I never do something (don’t remember what and wouldn’t share if I did), and I gave her several examples of when I had done exactly what she said. We discussed it for a bit before she said something like, ‘you’re stuck on that one example’ to which I started to reply that I had given several examples. But clearly that didn’t matter. So I stopped and tried to run it through Dramatica and Mental Relativity.
I decided that what was happening was I was approaching the issue linearly, giving specific examples, where she was approaching it holistically, looking for examples of that process being carried on between specific examples. I was approaching things linearly and treated the discussion as though my wife were also approaching things linearly, but she was approaching the issue holistically and basically pointing out that I was approaching it linearly.
So I took a few seconds to figure out how to express how my examples actually were a process that carried on even between the examples (not in that type of language at all, of course). When I did that, she stopped speaking for a moment and I could actually see her thinking about what I had said. A moment later we were both in agreement and moving on. Mental Relativity in action and at its finest. And this same type of thing has actually happened multiple times since then.
So here’s the interesting part. I’m now noticing more and more when someone approaching a problem holistically points out or gets frustrated by how others are doing things more linearly (it doesn’t happen ALL the time, but often enough) but people who approach things linearly tend to assume that others are also approaching things linearly. I don’t know if it’s just me finding a couple instances of this, or if this is generally how things go, but I thought it was really interesting because it seems to be predicted by Dramatica in the idea of audience reach-that holistic problems solvers can empathize with Linear, but Linear can’t do the same with Holistic.