Jim, that makes total, total sense. I was actually going to ask about that specific thing – that Learning is supposed to be about the learning itself, not what you learn, but how does that apply to RS? – once we figured out the Signpost. But you beat me to it, like you could sense what was tripping me up.
Anyway, I think “learning they’re not right for each other” was a bit of a shortcut; I borrowed your wording. A more accurate description of RS Signpost 2 is “learning that this romance is not going to be easy or simple”. This process encompasses the relationship story’s Act 2 in a nutshell.
The various things I mentioned are really the different steps toward that learning. I don’t really see them as actual Understanding or even misunderstandings; it’s like they’re brief little data points where the romance goes “did that just happen?” or “WTF?” but then moves on without comprehension (yet).
I hope that makes sense.