There is a certain intuitive "click" that I think has to happen, and there is very little any active theorizing can do to make that happen.
On the whole, I agree with you. But I liken it to sports a bit: you train during the week so you don't have to think during the game. Is that putting Dramatica aside, or is that getting in into your bones? At any rate, ultimately, a story must be passionately felt.
PS. The thing of mine that you quoted (paraphrase: the same problem looks different depending on where you stand) is a good thing to know generally—I wasn't even thinking about that as a storytelling skill. Just a life skill.