Rationalization works for the relationship story.
Rationalization: An attempt to have your cake and eat it too; an alternative explanation used to mask the real reason.
Can’t we rationalize in many ways? maybe it is this, “Is honor and duty just an alternative explanation to mask that it is really our friendship that motivates us?" Under Rationalization are the elements; Consider/Reconsider again and Oppose/Support.
I am starting to see all sides. argh! I still like self interest as well.