As I understand it, justification is the support one builds up for choosing a particular method for solving a problem. I desire a car that I am not able to afford and this leaves me feeling trapped in my apartment. How do I address feeling trapped? I can change my desire or I can change my ability. I just don’t know which to choose because i haven’t built up a support for either.
Although, there are lots of things I want. Wanting those other things doesnt make me feel trapped, so I don’t think there’s anything with desiring something. But if I had the ability to pay for a car, not only could I get out of the apartment, but I could maybe get some of those other things too.
And there I’ve built up a justification for addressing feeling stuck by changing my ability.
Although, buying a car would mean buying gas, paying sales tax, taking it to the mechanic. Then I’d just feel like I was trapped by the car. But if I give up my desire for the car, it won’t trap me at all. If I don’t want the car, I won’t feel like I’m trapped because I don’t have one. I’ll be content to walk or ride my bike like always.
And there I’ve built up a justification for addressing feeling stuck by changing my desire.
But if solving the inequity is as simple as addressing the inequity by justifying it in the manner I just did, then why would Desire be a problem as it seems to be whenever I engage in the process of Desire-ing?
Because I keep finding that I can give up my desire for a new car in order to avoid feeling trapped in my apartment, UNLESS I need to want what’s best for my family (here meaning a car that can carry a weeks worth of groceries, two kids, a dog, and a wife) in order to keep my wife feeling like I’m plugged in to the family.
But why would it be a problem to find that when I engage in Desire-ing? Because if I keep wanting the car, I will keep feeling trapped. If I stop wanting the car, my wife feels like I’m not trying to be part of the family.
So here’s my question, then. How does the solution work?
Presumably I can remain Steadfast with my changed Desire until my wife gets over it and balance returns between Desire and Ability, or I can change from Desire to Ability. And in that case, I assume that Ability-ing will get rid of at least one of the Desire justifications. But does it get rid of both?
I would think that working toward being able to buy a new car would keep the wife happy, so I get to hang on to that justification. Assuming that working toward buying a new car would ease the feeling of being trapped, then I can get rid of that justification. That leaves me with a solution of Ability balanced out by a happy wife and thus no more inequity between Desire and Ability.
Sounds good enough to me, but I’m not sure if that’s really accurate, though.